Poisoning the kids against a parent

It has been a few years, and it is a classic case of “poisoning the kids against a parent”.

Parental alienation, lawful or otherwise, can have life-long consequences for the children who are forced, through no fault of their own, to be stuck in the middle. When the ‘primary’ (or financially able) parent demands that the children take his or her side, and get caught up in the lies being brought to the court, what choice does a small child have but to oblige. A boy of just 4-years-old has no understanding when it comes to the complexities and complications of divorce or custody battles.. He knows only loyalty to the one parent able to demand it of him. 

That would be unheard of nowadays and I don’t understand why it was allowed at the time. I would really like my children to know that I love them, that I wanted to fight for them, and that I tried. I was backed into a corner by a bitter ex-wife and her team of lawyers, and the legal system as a whole. 

As of 2017, according to British Law —

The phenomenon where one parent poisons their child against the other is known as parental alienation, the ultimate aim of which is to persuade the child to permanently exclude that parent from their life. Cafcass said it had recently realised parental alienation occurred in significant numbers of the 125,000 cases it dealt with each year.

Divorcing parents could be denied contact with their children if they try to turn them against their former partner, under a “groundbreaking” process being trialled by the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service (Cafcass).

This law should be passed in Canada to protect children and their parents. I’m just sorry it wasn’t around when I was fighting for my kids. Now they are all grown up and it’s too late.

Divorce Paul Murton – Why Am I Posting
Mr. Murton threatened to shoot Mrs. Murton
Poisoning the kids against a parent
I have no way of contacting my kids

Mr. Murton threatened to shoot Mrs. Murton

I know it has been a few years, but this came up when I was throwing out papers from my storage unit. I came across the letters to my lawyer regarding my divorce and was shocked to see a letter stating that I had “threatened to shoot Mrs. Murton” (Link to letter shoot). So, with “perfect” legal advice, and brainwashing well underway, I couldn’t even offer to help, or even ask my kids what could be done if I wanted to take them to MacDonald’s for a happy meal. Add to this the damaging (and GROSSLY UNTRUE) statement to the children “your dad does want to see you”. (Letter about fear) The kids were officially poisoned against me. I had/have no legal or logical recourse neither then nor now. I tried with this letter to the court.(Link to letter.reply)  With any issue during a child young age these types of action have an effect on their later views on relationships, marriages, and life. That’s part of my justification for this web posting. The kids are grown enough to have already suffered so much damage, but they don’t need to go on forever believing that their father deserted them willingly.

POLAK, McKAY & HAWKSHAW did a great job of taking away a dad’s kids. They could have a sogan , HAWKSHAW & McKAY….We make Dad go away!. The legal masters of how to poison the kids. The other issue is about the Law Society of Ontario (previously Upper Canada Law Society)  and their lack of regulation for liars or sorry lawyers. How is it that a criminal act against a woman – “Mr. Murton threatened to shoot Mrs. Murton ” wouldn’t require a report from the lawyer to the police? If it wasn’t true and therefore unworthy of a police report, why is it part of a custody hearing? Another issue I had was that one of these letters to my lawyer wasn’t even signed, and the other was a faint squiggle. Is this ok? Should it have been my lawyer’s responsibility to ask me about my alleged threat to shoot the mother of my children in between asking to take the kids to the park to play?

It’s perfectly understandable that I’m less than impressed with the behaviour of my ex wife,Carol, and the use of her lawyer “N. CAMERON MURKAR“. People who look up either name will now have an opportunity to read about what they have done.

Children are very easily manipulated and deserve their OWN representation away from the watching eyes of vengeful divorcing parents. I specifically requested that lawyers represent my children..to no avail. Why wasn’t anyone checking in on my children when their father was allegedly threatening to shoot their mother? Why wasn’t someone who wasn’t biased toward one parent asking my children about their relationships with their parents without their mother sitting nearby, arms crossed, expecting them to parrot the words and opinions she had forced upon them? When a custody battle turns ugly, or is anything but 100% FRIENDLY, the children need their own representation, and mine should have had that right. The outcome could have been very different, and they may not have lost a loving parent’s presence while they were growing up.

Divorce Paul Murton – Why Am I Posting
Mr. Murton threatened to shoot Mrs. Murton
Poisoning the kids against a parent
I have no way of contacting my kids

I have no way of contacting my kids

I have no way of contacting my kids. My ex-wife, their mother, Carole has succeeded in poisoning my kids, even going so far as convincing them and the courts that I threatened to shoot her. Oddly enough, the threat wasn’t quite credible enough to ever get police involved. I do not own a gun, nor at any time did hold, point, or even MENTION a gun. But the kids were 5 and 11 years old when, after a number of staged events, my wife and the conveniently placed neighbours, convinced them to be afraid of their father. At the time I believed that, over time, as they got older they would reach out. My son did a bit – but no further contact. My daughter hasn’t even heard my voice since she was 11. 20 years later, my children have not contacted me, nor will they allow any facebook, cell phone, direct, or indirect communication at all.

When this whole saga reached it’s breaking point, I went right along with it because I didn’t have any choice. I didn’t have a cent for a lawyer, and it was clear that the few rights myself and my children had, were being forgotten and/or ignored. I was at a huge disadvantage, despite having been home to raise my children and provide a safe and loving home. I was the one who picked them up from school, made lunch, and took them out to the playground, parks and McDonald’s. I was a deejay at night, but my wife basically brought home the bacon. I took care of the children just the way any mother (or father) who was available during the day would. I had all of the responsibilities and none of the rights, all because my wife made more money and could afford a fancy (and corrupt) legal team. The financial power dynamic swung a particular way, and suddenly I was broke with little or no hope of access to my own children.

As you will see in the “Legal” section, my ex claimed that I threatened her with a gun, and set up neighbours to watch me get upset when I came to collect my children and she refused. As I read further into the yellowed divorce documents, I saw a pattern of not asking the kids if they would like to see their dad, but rather statements that the kids did not want to see their dad because they were afraid of me.(Link to letter.shoot)  She convinced the kids that they should be afraid of me. After all that happened, even if I had been handed visitation rights, my wife had already robbed me of my kid’s trust- the most sacred thing a parent can have, so what good would a piece of paper do?

Divorce Paul Murton – Why Am I Posting
Mr. Murton threatened to shoot Mrs. Murton
Poisoning the kids against a parent
I have no way of contacting my kids

Divorce Paul Murton – Why Am I Posting

Divorce Paul Murton – Why Am I Posting

Editor’s Notes

I recently went through decades of paperwork in search of my divorce papers. I lost my children when they were young, and it had recently occurred to me that I might be able to post my story online in order to reach out to them and let them know what really happened back then. I wasn’t able to contact them as they were growing up, but technology has at least made it possible that they might find this one day. I’ve tried contacting my daughter, but after so many years, she wants nothing to do with me. This is my last resort. There was briefly some contact with my son, but it was before I had those divorce papers in my hands, and was reminded of the lies my children and the courts were told. They deserve the truth, and they deserve to know that their father didn’t walk away willingly. With any luck, my kids or someone they know will Google them one day and come across this little autobiographical piece. This information may be new to them, likely will not correct their opinion about me, nor would I expect them to call me all of a sudden. Information posted on the web lives forever. This isn’t a solution by any means, and it’s many years overdue, but at least the truth is out there, and this is cheaper than any therapy I could afford to provide for the kids.

I was a dedicated and loving father until I wasn’t allowed to be, and my wife had the money and resources to destroy me in court.

It is my hope that other fathers in similar circumstances will see this post and be made aware of how quickly and easily their family can be taken from them- and if it has already happened, they are not alone. They system needs to change and these lawyers need to take responsibility for their actions. And mothers who CAN demonize a loving father just because they can afford the lawyers, doesn’t mean they should actually go ahead and do it. I lost the opportunity to watch my children grow up and they lost a loving father over nothing but lies and manipulation.

My children don’t deserve to spend their entire lives thinking their father doesn’t care, or that he was the horrible person their mother made him out to be. I was just a father who wanted to take my kids to the park and wasn’t allowed.

Divorce Paul Murton – Why Am I Posting
Mr. Murton threatened to shoot Mrs. Murton
Poisoning the kids against a parent
I have no way of contacting my kids

DJ Paul Murton Toronto @ The Vic Pub

DJ Paul Murton Toronto @ The Vic Pub

DJ Paul Murton Toronto @ The Vic Pub

As a DJ in The Vic Pub, The New College Pub, and Hart House in the 70’s, what I witnessed at University of Toronto probably wasn’t much different than what the DJ’s on today’s UofT campuses see. Kids who are half kids/half adults, just leaving the protective bosoms of their parents, living on Kraft Dinner and beer, and having the times of their lives. Every night, there’s at least one fight (often over a girl), at least one drunk young lady ends up sobbing, and the floors get sticky… SOOOO STICKY. The bathrooms are beyond description. As much as it was kind of the same thing every night, it was still an absolute blast. The pub-goers were entering a whole new stage of life, and, each fall, one after another, deer in headlights, would walk in, jaw dropping to the ground at the sheer possibilities of what could happen in the months ahead. And I got to provide the soundtrack. Years later, these sobbing teens are sitting with their 20-something daughters and hear a song and start laughing… Paul Murton Toronto got to play a part in that and there is something magical about that.

This was before computers, and CD’s…it was on 7-inch Vinyl, 45-Records that lasted a maximum of 3 minutes. You had to be on the ball. There were no playlists to be had back then.. There was no way I could get away with indulging in the $0.50 beer with everyone else and keep the records playing steadily… I had to start thinking about mixing in the next song within a minute of the previous one. DJ’s these days can set a playlist, pre-mix so songs blend perfectly together, change speeds at the touch of a button.. Wasn’t like that back in the olden days. Vinyl Records have made a comeback, and as a DJ, I can see why, as they have such a deep and soulful sound, but also, as a DJ, I can’t see why any DJ would put themselves through Vinyl with today’s technology!! If you’re one of those martyrs who loves that deep and soulful sound, visit vinylrecordspressing.com to see articles and order custom vinyl records

 

 

 

Paul Murton Toronto For Councillor Ward 19

Paul Murton Toronto For Councillor Ward 19

First of all, I would like to introduce myself. I have lived in the Beach neighbourhood for nearly three decades and have always taken an interest in the the community. For many years, I ran community newspapers in both the Beach and East York covering local politics, important issues, and community events. It has always frustrated me that the elected officials in the Beach and East York seem to have interests that are outside of our wards, or that have little or nothing to do with what is best for our unique communities. I have spoken out against the unfair 20-year contract being held over the Beach waterfront retail opportunities, the sewage infrastructure issues, parking and bike-lane debates and political corruption. I have photographed and encouraged local festivals and events, encouraging tourism, being proud to show off our wonderful end of the city. This is my chance to do more than just write and take pictures. I want to take the issues that affect us all and bring them to City Hall on behalf of the neighbourhood I have loved for so many years, so I can make it even better than it already is.

The reason I am running is because of the overall lack of true democracy in politics. The whole idea of casting votes towards a chosen elected official is so that those of us voting have someone to represent our interests, and speak and act on our behalves. When democracy was first created, the concept may have actually been practiced, but times have changed. The NDP candidate works for the NDP party, and his or her decisions are based on socialist priorities, regardless of how those decisions will affect the population as a whole. The Conservative candidate represents the top 1%, and will vote yes to a fancy new condo over affordable housing every time at the behest of property moguls.

We need to go back to the roots of democracy so the majority can be heard again. The problem is, the candidates who care what the people want can’t afford the hundreds of shiny signs, the pimped out campaign bus, the ads bashing the competition or tantalizing perks to lure hoards of enthusiastic canvassers.

So, how do we get the little guy represented? We get together and ELECT ourselves a little guy! The next great candidate doesn’t have $40,000, and the struggling voters who need to be heard at city hall aren’t the type to have $5000 lying around the house. BUT, a whole BUNCH of struggling voters have $20 or $50 to spare on payday for the right cause.

Groups of little guys could send one or two trusted community members around to neighbourhood homes to collect smaller donations for a few thousand dollars each, “street captains” if you will. The donations could be brought to an actual human being who understood and cared about the members of the community who could run for office and bring the real issues of the people to city hall. In collecting donations, Street Captains could gather important information from the constituents, such as their concerns, issues and what is most important to them in the upcoming election. With the actual people of the riding funding the leadership and sharing their thoughts more directly, the ideas at the heart of democracy would finally find their way back into Canadian politics.

 

I was unable to speak at the meeting held on September 24 at Kingston Road United Church… It seems I was not on the list seen by the organizers, and they were short on time. I did make an attempt though!

 

*We will be appearing on October 14th at the following locations if you would like to meet the Candidate. Please come introduce yourself and feel free to ask questions!!

 

Sunday, October 14

 

10am-12pm Leslieville Farmers Market @ Jonathan Ashbridge Park

 

12pm-2pm Ashbridge Estate @ 1444 Queen St. E

 

Radio Varsity director Paul Murton Toronto

While enjoying an education at Conestoga College Radio TV Arts, I was proud to be taught by Larry Solway (CHUM AM) of the Larry Solway Show Talk Show. Great lot of fun, but in the end you needed a “ballsy Voice” to be in radio. I had the interest, but not the voice.

________Talk radio pioneer Larry Solway let listeners speak their minds
If he loved to learn, he also loved to instruct – by-example the craft of broadcasting to young colleagues teaching at Conestoga College ————-

During the same time period, as a 21-year-old, I was working for free at the local campus radio station Radio Varsity (UofT Radio) to become CUIT-FM. I was working the poor empty nights and was lucky to have even one listener. Having a passion for people, (and ‘selflessly’ brown-nosing my way to a better shift than Monday at 2am), I got to know the current manager Roland. To my surprise, I was told the position of managing Radio Varsity was up for election and Roland encouraged me to campaign. Strange — but Roland did not see himself getting re-elected because the staff of important radio announcers had another person in mind for the job. It was quickly becoming a political shit show. So, being a natural born salesman without a job, I started sell myself to the other voting on-air djs. The election was a shocker. IT WAS AN EVEN SPLIT between PAUL MURTON TORONTO (me!), Roland and Paul Cutler. Only after counting everyone’s secondary ballots did i win by a SINGLE VOTE. I Should have resigned then and there. But Roland was so humoured by the “important radio announcers” losing their guy, that he happily handed over the keys to a person who had never run a lemonade stand. I enjoyed my $84.32 a week and waited to be fired. But lady luck threw me another bone when Hart House called and wanted Radio Varsity to bring down all of it’s mobile radio gear and run a radio show from their pub. They wanted, in 1974, to hear “Barry White” music. The girls wanted to dance. I was a BEATLE’S fan who knew nothing of “dance music”, but was willing to wing it for $50 a night, and all the draft you could drink at $0.45 a glass. A pretty girl told me EXACTLY which records to get, and I zoomed back to the radio station’s record library and started my DJ career. Unconcerned about the voluntary staff at Radio Varsity, who all want to be radio DJ stars. I did my job, but was focused on being the DJ for the New College Pub, and The Vic Pub. The “important radio announcers” were running the station as they had all the key jobs, but THEY were not getting paid. As this was flying by, SAC was looking as getting the station a FM licence, and felt the budget was better spent on that venture than keeping it up and running for a mediocre, ungrateful radio DJ who won by one vote. By now, I was working Thursdays at the Vic Pub for $75/night and suddenly ‘my’ dj equipment was locked up in a closed-down radio station. Off to good old Long & McQuade for my first rental before becoming a decades-long customer, and eventually close friend of the wonderful and talented late Jon Long. So that’s what happen to PAUL MURTON Toronto But the story printed in the local student paper makes it out to be a pretty big deal, when in fact, my use of the station records and equipment (borderline CRIMINAL!) was never even mentioned as an issue. Nobody knew except Roland, who worked with me at the pubs on the U of T campus until 1976. Yes that’s JOHN TORY, Our Mayor as one of the commission members who fired me.

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STORY FROM —-  By JOSEPH WRIGHT (Varsity Newspaper Jan 1975)

Radio Varsity managing director Paul Murton announced his resignation last Thursday during a meeting with SAC’s communication commission. Murton’s action followed, the report of the commission of inquiry into Radio Varsity which recommended he be dismissed,. In a letter to communications commissioner Michael Sahia Jan, 8, Murton said: “I feel that the recommendation calling for my dismissal is unfair. But, in the interest of Radio Varsity’s good, I have submitted my resignation realizing that the current situation at the station makes my continuing as manager difficult for all concerned Referring to Murton ‘s letter of resignation, Saba said, We received it, but we haven’t accepted it or rejected it.” The matter will he brought forward at a SAC general meeting Wednesday, he said Sabia said SAC’s options regarding Radio Varsity at present are either to .shut, down the station until March or find a way to correct the present situation, lf SAC decides to continue the station operations. one suggestion is to set up an interim board of directors to manage the station with a model to be determined, Sabin. said_ The commission of inquiry report, issued last week, calLs for the permanent establishment of an in-dependent seven-person board of directors to provide a continuous overview of the station, “There’s a fairly wide consensus that we’re not going to let the station remain as it is,” Saba said. Murton said yesterday he didn’t know what he would do if his resignation was rejected, adding he would have to await the outcome of the SAC meeting Wednesday, The three-person commission of inquiry into the station was named by SAC in November, following complaints by staff members and the resignation of news director Frank Cockram, The report, by Commission members Paul Carson, Rick Clutch and John Tory made 21 recommendations including a call for dismissal of Murton, establishment of a board of directors and a restructuring of the executive, Despite the release of the commission’s report., controversy continues to plague Radio Varsity. In a letter posted in the station’s offices, member Carson condemns what he termed rumors of his motives in serving on the SAC COM mission. The letter said: “Should Mr. Murton be dismissed, I not apply, and 1 never have had any intention of applying, for either the interim or permanent directorship. In the unlikely event that either position is offered to me.  shall refuse to accept it.’ Carson resigned his position as executive assistant to Scarborough College’s students’ council claiming mismanagement of council business, and he is now unemployed. The other inquiry commission members, Tory and Outerbridge, said they had seen no evidence of any self-interest on Carson’s part, Tory said when he once made a joking reference to proposing, Carson for the position, Carson immediately replied that he could not consider it. All three commission members also denied the rumor that the report had been rewritten after Tory had viewed the final draft. Tory said there had been some “twisting of words” in the final report but added he was generally satisfied with it. He said he was only able to view the finished report briefly Monday morning before its release. Sabia said some disagreement he the commission members when they appeared before the communications commission Thursday evening “gave my commission some cause for concern-. Tory said his chief reservation was that Murton be given a chance to defend himself before he was dismissed. The third recommendation of the report said “if SAC concurs this recommendation (that Murton he dismissed’, Mr. .Murton should be Offered both severance pay and the opportunity to defend himself at a public SAC meeting, if he so desires.” “I thought he should have been fired, but with a chance to have a public hearing before.” Tory said. Tory also said he had some reservation concerning the report’s recommendation that • neither Murton or staff members Ricard Morochov and Paul Cutler be able to apply for the position on the executive or as manager until March,. John Tory said he felt this penalty was a bit harsh.